看到楼下Wiser网友提起老狼的理想主义， 想到网友们常说老狼是理想主义的幻想者。 其实我欣赏老狼的另一点就是他的理想主义。 在我们长大成人的过程中，我们逐渐地give up 理想主义 because you got hurt by that , then you become cynical. 但是没有了理想主义， 你的生命又变得平庸and dull..
Being realistic is probably one of the reasons why married men having affairs but do not want to get divorced. They have so much to lose, financially, socially… 我所认识的这个男人，已经和LP两地分居了十年以上，not sleeping in the same room for long time。 但就这样，我感觉要让他下决心离婚都很难。Not only it will make his life complicated financially and socially, 他对老婆孩子的亲情 will make things even harder. After all, being together for so many years, they had become part of him…
OR is it because he is not that into me?
But then, should we still believe in marriage? Does it make sense that people try so hard to get marry so that they can legally live together a life that is just going to get as boring? So far I can’t find role model that fits with the idealism notions of happy marriage… Just look at Al and Tipper Gore’s 40-year marriage…
